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Don’t you just love those guys who are always writing bitchy comments on twitter, facebook and youtube about how horrible and disgusting everybody ELSE is? Isn’t slamming the latest celebrities bad photo op, performance or video SEXY? Or how much does it turn you on when you hear those same guys making sure they get in on the latest slam band wagon and rip apart Miley Cyrus, Justin Bieber and other celebrities sometimes HALF their age and experience, from their very protected from society safe place, at home?

People LOVE dating negative people, having bitchy friends that are always complaining, and prefer working with people who are known to seek revenge don’t they?

It’s not hard to have picked up on the Captain Obvious sarcasm and rhetorical questions and realize the oh so obvious point I am trying to make. Guys, the whole “bring everybody down with your oh so not clever remarks bitchy gay guy” hasn’t been interesting, attractive or wanted since maybe the 90’s. The problem with it is this: every life coach, successful, or happy person has now realized that when negativity comes out of their mouth in any form, it’s ALMOST ALWAYS a reflection of actually how THEY are feeling about THEIR OWN life and struggles. You cannot convince me that people that make a living or spend most of their time slamming (online bullying) others (and are serious about it comedians get a pass) are gonna end up dating or having any real relationship with the hot, happy, sexy and successful guy in the room. You know, the guy who HAS BETTER and MORE INTERESTING things to do with their time.

Yes, people should have and make an opinion when warranted and pop culture can and should be fun to chat about and comment on! But have some tact and respect for yourself, your community and the people you are talking about. The comedic pics and edited videos that end up surfacing on the internet making fun of pop culture are at least creative and entertaining!! These in my opinion are worthy and sometimes freaking hilarious.

I’m not immune to expressing negative behaviours at times of course myself. I had some low times last month in July and had a friend come take me out to cheer me up. After gossiping and chatting negatively about the world and some people we know I caught myself. OUCH> The realization hurt and hit home. When had I become “bitchy gay guy?” I knew I had work to do, ON MYSELF and MY LIFE, not on the others I had mentioned. I apologized to my friend and luckily for me we are close enough for him to know I didn’t mean those things and they were out of character.

Are you “bitchy gay guy” also known in the slang world as a modern “fag” (a term which I personally despise)? If so, it must suck whatever you are going through and I hope you can find the courage to get your life on a path towards happiness. I promise when you do you will be shocked at how much your words and actions towards others, change for the better as well. Maybe your happiness starts by doing the reverse. Only you can find this out for yourself. Try being a better, and more likeable, interesting person rather than just trying to bring others down to your level, I dare you.

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3 ways to have better times at Pride

1. Get involved. Contributing your time and energy to a cause greater than yourself has numerous rewards. It’s a great way to meet people, become part of a team, and you get to see from the inside what pride is really all about. There are many opportunities to get involved; donating your time to help with events, walking in the parade, to name a few. Have a special talent? This is the perfect opportunity to share. Even going out of your way to dress up in a crazy costume to walk down the street can be a way to contribute as peoples face light up with joy and possibly more depending on what you wear (or choose not to wear). As my friend likes to say “what are YOU bringing to the party.”

2. Stop chasing a scene or a potential lover and focus on having fun with your friends. I screwed this one up on Thursday night as I texted my night away and bounced from bar to bar hoping for more excitement. This is a horrible way to spend a night. Only YOU can control how much fun you are having. Once you start to look outside of yourself for fun and entertainment- you and your night are DONE. Look at the people you went out with and get engaged. Get interested. Ask questions and actually LISTEN for the answers. BE FUN and EXCITING; don’t look for it and it will arrive naturally to you. Focusing on meaning and purpose will ALWAYS pay off.

3. Love yourself and your body and quit comparing yourself to others. Next time you hear yourself saying anything such as -“I am too old for Pride, I am too fat for Pride, I don’t look like those guys, I am too skinny to fit in, or I don’t know what to say to guys I think are hot” – I want you to replace them with and tell YOURSELF instead “WELL THEN YOU CAN JUST SHUT THE FUCK UP!”, particularly say it in Chris Tuckers voice really loudly! You need to SHUT UP that tiny, insecure, negative, bitchy voice that keeps you from having fun. Tell those negative thoughts to “SHUT THE FUCK UP” and then replace them with something empowering. Only you can control your attitude and thoughts, and that will solely determine the impact of the experiences you want to have. It’s your life. Live it for you because you definitely deserve it.

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