4 comments on “Love-Energy Blocks”

Love-Energy Blocks

What would it take for you to believe you are worthy of love?

Years ago, in my 20’s I would get hit on a lot but love always eluded me. It almost seemed impossible the way it would.  I would have a couple dates, things would be going so well and then … POOF! The guy would completely disappear. Then again with a new date shortly after- I would start to get excited, “Maybe this time somebody will want to be with me” – then…POOF! Gone again.

Everybody seemed to look at me and go, wow it must be so easy to get a boyfriend looking like you do. But for me, it felt absolutely impossible.  This kept happening over and over and over again.

I figured I was just unlucky in love. Nobody understood; it didn’t matter how much money I would make, or how good looking I could get. The results would always be the same, they would always leave me and I would be alone forever.

This started to change and then completely flip on its head when I started to fully understand this energy, and it really is an energy. Somehow I was repelling this energy. I was unconsciously rejecting love. Now it’s the opposite and it’s just a night and day difference I can’t even explain. I share this story because perhaps you too, have these love-energy blocks that are holding you back from what you really desire in life. I made a quick list for you to determine if this is the case with your individual situation.

 

How to know if you have love-energy blocks

  1.   You can’t ever get past the first couple of dates
  2.   You get blocked on dating apps often, sometimes for seemingly no reason at all
  3.   You get stood up and canceled on, even at the last second
  4.   You sometimes feel like an outsider, even within your own family
  5.   You constantly go after narcissists or guys who won’t treat you well
  6.   You think love belongs only to the good-looking, muscular, successful, masculine or rich people of the world

 

So where do these blocks come from? Well, they come from ourselves, parents, our family, our classmates, our acquaintances, our community and the outside world. Growing up gay it’s almost inevitable. Time and time again in the most critical first years of our lives we see examples that “PROVE” to us, that we will never be worthy of love.

-That’s gay, this is gay; gay people are disgusting.  Gay marriage is wrong. Guys shouldn’t act feminine or be into “girly things.” Gay people should be shot; gay people shouldn’t kiss in front of kids. Sadly this example list can go on forever.

These examples bring about a belief pattern that can almost seem impossible to break.

Our results: more people distancing themselves from us, more rejection, more loneliness.  It’s what we are used to, it’s our sick way of staying “safe” cause it’s what we are accustomed to. The pattern repeats itself again.

If you have these love-energy blocks, you must recognize them and eliminate them in order to create the joy and abundance of love you desire. This is the root cause of this issue.

Transcending love-energy blocks is no easy task, but it is very possible and I am here to help show you the way.

Do you have love-energy blocks? If so, what will it take for you to believe you are worthy of love? What strategy do you have to break this cycle? 

For more information on this please email chris@powerofyouraq.com

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The Best Day of My Life

It’s no surprise that the best day of my life was the day I had to have the most courage. After bartending at a local bar for a couple years and generally being a nice and social person, I figured I could throw an event myself. Heck, the bar needed people and I thought I could pack the place.

Turns out I could! My first event was amazing, my boyfriend at the time quickly joined in on my plan and we became quite the promoting team. But I wanted to go even further. I had done a few performances over the years and I thought why not combine the two? Why not host and perform at my own event? It could either be a total disaster or a night to remember.

So we began planning it and I and my amazing dancers got to practicing our routines. We called them the “Coyote Studly Dancers”, YESSSS!! I became more and more nervous as the day approached. I couldn’t sleep. Gays can be known for being judgmental, and I had to keep the thought about that out of my mind. I just practiced and practiced and did what I could to advertise it so I would at least be doing the performance in front of a real size audience.

The night came, and POW!!! The line up to get in came early and hard. It was lined up halfway down the block! When I came back from the store to get something we needed, a bitter queen of a man sharply said to me as he impatiently waited in the line-up to get inside, “this better be good,

Talk about pressure!

So downstairs of the bar, I went to mentally prep for the show at midnight. I had gone all in. Not only with the event but with the performance. I was in top shape, I got special lighting brought in for the show, I brought in an amazing sound girl, and my talented best bud agreed to videotape the whole thing. AND, we were going to perform right on top of the bar!

It was a huge success. Even people I don’t think like me very much were congratulating me.

I was so freaking proud of myself. I still look back on that day and smile. Who was that guy who had those balls to put all that together and pull it off???!!

Here’s a clip of it! My Favorite Part

I’m telling you this story because I too was once very fearful of taking chances. I too lacked confidence and courage. But with work and slowly changing the way that I think, my life changed. And with that, I was able to have moments like in that video.

Moments that I will have and remember for the rest of my life.

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2 comments on “3 ways to have better times at Pride”

3 ways to have better times at Pride

1. Get involved. Contributing your time and energy to a cause greater than yourself has numerous rewards. It’s a great way to meet people, become part of a team, and you get to see from the inside what pride is really all about. There are many opportunities to get involved; donating your time to help with events, walking in the parade, to name a few. Have a special talent? This is the perfect opportunity to share. Even going out of your way to dress up in a crazy costume to walk down the street can be a way to contribute as peoples face light up with joy and possibly more depending on what you wear (or choose not to wear). As my friend likes to say “what are YOU bringing to the party.”

2. Stop chasing a scene or a potential lover and focus on having fun with your friends. I screwed this one up on Thursday night as I texted my night away and bounced from bar to bar hoping for more excitement. This is a horrible way to spend a night. Only YOU can control how much fun you are having. Once you start to look outside of yourself for fun and entertainment- you and your night are DONE. Look at the people you went out with and get engaged. Get interested. Ask questions and actually LISTEN for the answers. BE FUN and EXCITING; don’t look for it and it will arrive naturally to you. Focusing on meaning and purpose will ALWAYS pay off.

3. Love yourself and your body and quit comparing yourself to others. Next time you hear yourself saying anything such as -“I am too old for Pride, I am too fat for Pride, I don’t look like those guys, I am too skinny to fit in, or I don’t know what to say to guys I think are hot” – I want you to replace them with and tell YOURSELF instead “WELL THEN YOU CAN JUST SHUT THE FUCK UP!”, particularly say it in Chris Tuckers voice really loudly! You need to SHUT UP that tiny, insecure, negative, bitchy voice that keeps you from having fun. Tell those negative thoughts to “SHUT THE FUCK UP” and then replace them with something empowering. Only you can control your attitude and thoughts, and that will solely determine the impact of the experiences you want to have. It’s your life. Live it for you because you definitely deserve it.

4 comments on “The Minority Complex”

The Minority Complex

I wanted to write a bit about something I continue to see and experience in life and what I refer to as the “Minority Complex”.  The MC is a perception of life that is always limited, is constantly under threat, sees his own uniqueness as a fault or problem mostly in their unknown subconscious and ends up acting this out in a cycle in reality.  To put it simply,  I believe the MC is why there has never been a female president in the U.S, why there are so few to none gay male pop culture artists and politicians,  and why ethnic politicians and ethnic pop culture icons (Chinese, Indian particularly,) in North America are still rare.

How is this so?

Well, we have a tendency to “blame society” or the “white privileged male” for the status quo.  But im here to offer a different reality.  Sorry but the truth does hurt sometimes.  The MC is a huge problem why minorities don’t get ahead; it’s not ALL because of the greater society (the obvious), it’s also because MINORITIES DON’T OFTEN HELP THERE OWN CAUSE by supporting and encouraging and PHYSICALLY acting to help their fellow minority members and mostly THEMSELVES.

Example, if all the U.S women voted for a female president it wouldn’t matter what the “white privileged male” did at all, we would have a female president.  Example, if every gay/bisexual/trans man and woman came out of the closet tomorrow the stigma of homosexuality would be gone almost over night as everyone would become aware that these issues affect them and their families personally.

A recent character that shows this MC in a very nasty way is Samuel L. Jacksons’ character Uncle Tom in the movie Django Unchained .

How does this MC happen?

The MC lives in our subconscious. Because you may feel you have a weakness or don’t live up to societies standard in some shape or form, you set limits on your own life and what you realistically can and cannot achieve. Because of these limits, when you see others you perceive as in the same minority try to move into new territory or a new job or place of perceived prestige- you may also believe that they too cannot “make it” in this new territory based on your own personal fear, beliefs, experiences and expectations.  This in turn causes you to think they are either wasting their time or you could even think they are downright stupid or crazy for even trying!

The MC can be even sneakier. Sure maybe a gay man might set up a meeting for a friend to get a job and then at the last minute could say “hey make sure you act straight otherwise they might not hire you.”

Being an out and gay artist I have literally seen this MC over and over again. People in the community seeing my talent and saying you are great for this or that role or that my music should be played on the radio or you would be great for TV  “but can you pretend to be straight cause we don’t see a market for you even though I personally like you.”  

The “I don’t see a market for a gay artist” makes me laugh still to this day. Not only do we live in a digital age where you can sell music worldwide, we have notable (straight) pop icons SELLING and MARKETING TO GAY SOCIETY (Lady Gaga and Madonna anybody?)  Clearly they see a financial benefit to targeting this market.  Because of the MC though, believing a gay artist can actually market to the SAME group of people and have success in pop culture still seems impossible to some.

My point?

My point is to give consciousness and light to a new limitless way of thinking for a better life for you and those around you,

Chris

 

0 comments on “The Basics”

The Basics

What I do:

I help men achieve a dramatically improved self worth, self image and a greater sense of connection; this improves their relationships and helps to create new potential ones.

I provide a framework and tools so the Studs In Training become more true to their authentic self and thrive in a new world of possibilities.

Why I do this:

I LOVE seeing positive change when guys decide to take their lives to the next level. The physical/mental and spiritual growth inspires me in return to continue to strive for my own best life.  Sharing my experiences and skill set gives me a sense of true purpose and sense of connection with my clients.

I help bring out the STUD in YOU.

 

Please email studtraining101@gmail.com to register for the course Stud Training 101 (not all applicants will be suitable for this course)

 

1 comment on “Welcome to Stud Training 101”

Welcome to Stud Training 101

Hi there and thanks for checking out Stud Training 101. This blog provides useful tips on sexiness, physical/mental/spiritual well being and also the actual application of these. For example, why IS meditation so powerful, why do I care about it, and how does this help me get laid or find somebody I want to connect with??

You may have seen this on TV, Facebook or heard about it through a friend or website and wondered what this REALLY is all about!!

Well, what exactly is a STUD? We see examples of them every day on TV and around us in the clubs and at our work place.  They enter a room with confidence, strong posture and a magnetism that seems to attract people to them.  They engage in what looks like FUN and meaningful conversations with their friends, family members, co-workers, and even perfect strangers.  Behind closed doors a STUD is fulfilled and feels happy- this is not just a “front” to put on in public.  A STUD engages in AUTHENTIC behavior and is always on a quest to improve his life and happiness.  YES, like everybody a STUD goes through ups and downs; but as he improves his skills and continues to work towards loving his life and his self these down times become fewer and further between and less painful, and are consistently being replaced with fun, intimate, perhaps sexual and purposeful experiences.

Is this you; are you a STUD??

If so, great…. if not- and there are some areas that could use some improvements- then Stud Training 101 is for YOU!!

The actual course provides 1 on 1 support to set the participants life on a crash course for dramatically improved self confidence, self image, improved physical/mental attractiveness and improved social relationships.

So, are you ready to go after what you REALLY want out of life????