Why Giving is Receiving when it comes to relationships.
Religious or not, Jesus was spot on when he said giving is receiving – at least when it comes to relationships. I want to share with you 2 ways you may not have thought of, to create a potential relationship, or improve a friendship, familial tie, or take a romantic relationship to a whole new level.
Giving the spark – giving warm, exciting or uplifting feelings to people
When it comes to dating, I hear it all the time: “I want to meet somebody that gets me excited. I want somebody that gives me that spark. I want somebody that drives me crazy. I want to be really sexually attracted to my partner.” GREAT! I think you deserve that, probably more than the next person; but, what are YOU DOING to give this to the world around you? What efforts are you making to give this to others you may wish to date? You are so ready to take it, though, aren’t you?
Let me show you a few ways we can improve this now:
a)We keep in shape, eat healthy and drink tons of water (this does WONDERS for our skin). Seems pretty freaking redundant, doesn’t it? Thing is, we often don’t do it: we neglect ourselves. I see this in loving relationships all the time. Guys come to me wanting a spark back in their relationship, yet aren’t willing to lose even some of the pounds they have put on since dating their lover. I’ll make it simple here: if you are desiring it, be the first to give it. Be the example. Give first. Always. Don’t ever stop
b)Maintenance. We trim the hair that needs to be trimmed (head to toe – ears too, seriously) and we update our wardrobe as our budget suits. This doesn’t have to be all the time even every couple years is okay in our adulthood (some fashionistas are going to be screaming at me on this one)
c)We participate in our interests. We light up as humans when we are working on something we are passionate about. It doesn’t matter if it’s your job or not. Even a couple hours during the week engaging and participating in something you love will help raise your AQ® and give off a fresh energy people will enjoy being around. Sports, painting, making funny videos, singing, even playing in poker tournaments (maybe not the addicted types) are some examples
2. Supporting the dreams and goals of the people (current or potential) we have in our lives.
I can hear you now: “I already do this.” Well, I’m calling major BULLSHIT. Cause quite simply you most likely don’t, and that is totally okay. It’s actually a very rare quality to REALLY support the dreams and goals of the people around us, mostly because we are scared of being identified with things that aren’t completely in line with who we think we are or project to be. We don’t want to be associated with music we don’t like so we don’t share our friends DJ page, or we don’t like abstract art so we don’t tell people about our friends’ art exhibit. I can name a million examples here.
Have you really liked AND SHARED all of your top 10 friends and family members professional Facebook pages/twitter/Instagram/website/blog/YouTube page/other? Have you offered any financial help? Have you offered to donate some of your time to help them with their new business or special hobby? Have you connected them with potential clients or people that could possibly help them in any way shape or form? Unless you answered yes to all of these question, you don’t particularly stand out in the way of supporting others’ dreams.
THIS IS GOOD IF YOU ARE RECOGNIZING THIS NOW.
If we now start to do these things and show support by some sense of consistent and real action, GREAT things can happen. Your friends and family will notice the difference, and maybe not publicly – but behind closed doors, you will slowly begin to see how more open and responsive they are towards you. Supporting others when they are the most vulnerable is a special and rare thing. People will remember you forever if you supported them in a time of need.
Try these things for yourself! Don’t expect things to come back instantly or in the same form. The universe will work its’ magic in mysterious ways. But, giving is receiving when it comes to any form of relationship. So, get out there and start giving!